Updated: Sep 10
The problem for us and what we see is that some of the people who do well; you actually don’t want to work with because they’re not great on teams, they’re not collaborative and the best and the best smartest people ACTUALLY aren’t the ones who always get the best grades. Lazlo Bock, Senior VP of People Operations, Google
Wow! If you’re reading this, you’re probably an adult.So, take time to look back over your life, I mean elementary, middle, high school, popular, unpopular, academic, athletic, class clown, teacher’s pet, healthy home, dysfunctional home, siblings, only child, shy, gregarious, planner, spontaneous or still figuring it all out…even now.Life is full of twists and turns; wouldn’t it have been just completely wonderful if they only happened when you were ready for them, once you turned 21 years of age? After all, 21 has been deemed by society when we all mature enough to handle anything, anywhere and anytime..right.For those Leah type people, childhood brings back not so fond memories but what’s progress without struggle, huh?The younger I age, I’m constantly reminded of how far I’ve been allowed to enter into boardrooms, castles and countries whereas, even though some said I would never see, let alone experience. I was not an academic (In fact, I thought I was not smart at all) or known for my athletic ability but I was unstoppable in my desire to break out of the confines of poverty.
Family and consumer science was I course I took in high school (some may remember it as Home Economics) and our assignment was to determine what our life would look like in 10 -15 years. I was ecstatic; this was my chance to dream in living color and put it on paper! I, of course, would be married to my smart boyfriend in the future. After we finished college; we would make $50,000 a year. In addition, I ensured all my calculations, rent, electric, water, savings, etc.; were correct. Every time I worked on my project, I had a smile on my face and it was that of a Cheshire cat when I turned it into the teacher. I couldn’t wait to hear my teacher’s praise of how well I did and the day finally came. I don’t remember the exact grade but it was not a “C” or below; what was surprising and defeating was her response: “Your life plan is unrealistic.” When I decided to join the military, wondering why I would expect a different response or maybe I admired her and was searching for validation but it was along the same lines: “You’ll never be successful in the Army.” I am not writing about this experience to bash teachers; I have admired, advocated and supported teachers for years, still do.
Years later, I enrolled in college with the same two beliefs: Not smart but determined to break out of poverty. I soon realized two things: I was smart but learned differently and I had inherent gifts waiting to be manifested in the world. I also learned that you can hear negativity but you do NOT have to embrace it. Negativity is from negative people but it can solve a problem. Just diagram their sentence to find out where the holes are in your plan. Follow me for a bit. Maybe my teacher thought I needed to earn better grades in order to attend college or maybe she thought my petite frame was inconsistent with being an Army recruit. Regardless, because of her professional or personal experience, she may have known something around the corner that my dreams of grandeur could not see due to my rose-colored glasses. The point: No one knows the roads you will travel, they can only advise, guide or warn. You are the only person who can stop, YOU!
Ten years later, Like Leah, I kept swinging that bat even though sometimes I struck out. Despite my teacher’s lovely warnings to be prepared for life’s struggles; I attained the desired annual salary, not married but on my own as a single-parent, graduated from college and retired a decorated Army veteran!
Take a good look, friends, at who you were when you got called into this life. I don’t see many of “the brightest and the best” among you, not many influential, not many from high-society families. Isn’t it obvious that God deliberately chose men and women that the culture overlooks and exploits and abuses, chose these “nobodies” to expose the hollow pretensions of the “somebodies”? That makes it quite clear that none of you can get by with blowing your own horn before God. 1 Cor 1:26-27